Politically correct

Politically correct

I have been informed recently that my writing seems apologetic, and this is true. I re-read my articles and, for some reason I have become gentle to the unknown person who might get insulted by the things I have to say. Then it hit me.A hard, cold slap from an old enemy: political correctness.

When it all started, the idea was very noble. The theory was, if you remove negative wording, people will become more tolerant. If you remove racist or sexist comments from popular culture, people’s opinions will change and all will be right with the world. As I said, noble.

The sad reality is that not only did it not rid the world of bad people, but it created overly sensitive ones. The media should absolutely use it. This makes them seem bias (rarely are, but should be). The rest of us? Really? It’s like everyone has an opinion, a judgment, a thought, but we are all sitting on the fence afraid to choose a side. More than that, afraid to stand alone on that side.

Result: overly explosive arguments in the YouTube comment section. Here, in this safe place, everyone’s a critic. Not only are they suddenly brave, but the arguments usually end at some preschool level. Somehow, at some point, I too become careful. Attentive to people I don’t know, and will never meet. Whether I have been influenced by the TV, or it just became the norm doesn’t matter. This ends now.

No more apologies. We all have a right to an opinion, a voice. If I stand alone on my side, I still stand.  I know what I have to say, stick around and listen. You may love it, you probably won’t,but hey,  you can always go to YouTube and release you frustration there.

Blog

So I guess you’ve noticed my pen name is “katmummy”. I know, very impressive. Thing is, this is actually the second blog I started writing. The first was an attempt at parent blogging. You know, writing about my kid and my life since he graced me with his presence, and filled my home with the pitter patter of him running the place. However, I failed. Unfortunately I was not inspired. I adore the little guy, and my life truly is a million times better now, but potty training and reading about Pepa Pig simply doesn’t move me.

Sure I’ll write about him here and there, we are always together and he is an amazing little human being, but my life still belongs to me. My mind, my jokes, my rules. I feel this blog is simply tailored for me. I gave birth, I don’t need those maternity jeans anymore, and I believe my blog should reflect that.

I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend and most of the time a little brash and very opinionated. I refuse to lose any piece of me because today’s society will judge you otherwise. Stopped breastfeeding for any reason, judged, bad mom. Still breastfeeding and your kid has teeth, judged, weird and weak. Unemployed, lazy, judged. Employed, selfish, judged. It goes on and on and on and on.

Then this blog was born. It is about being able to read and comment and think. No judgment. No comparisons to someone better. No envy, no hate. Just honest opinions and honest ideas. The truth, now that’s a refreshing idea.

 

Millenials

Millenials

The Millennials got their name quite recently, maybe it started in the last 5 years, maybe 6, but I remember when I was little we were “the generation after Generation Y”. We were mainly born to “X generation” parents. Now that’s a generation of innovators, movers and shakers. They literally changed the world, they went for it and still go for it.

I mentioned the generation of my parents because it’s important. I’d like to state I do know the difference between literally and figuratively. They did truly change the world. From music, to movies, to business and more. If you look it up you will be in shock that some of your favourite actors, or musicians are born in the 60s. That is the X generation. They didn’t take “No” for an answer, they invented “My way or the highway”. They are bold, strong, brave and very capable. Those are the parents of most Millennials.

We, however, leave a lot to be desired. A few successes here and there in sport (Novak Djokovic, Christiano Ronaldo), or innovations (Mark Zuckerberg), but mostly we are in the corporate world described as lazy, indecisive and quick to change jobs. I actually once stumbled upon a manual of sorts entitled “how to keep your Millennials happy”. There’s something particularly sad about that, we obviously behave like curios toddlers exploring the world but never for more than a few hours. You don’t really want to smack them but you have to find a way to keep them entertained because when they have a tantrum, it’s insufferable.

Is this though completely true? Do we all have a form of ADD or Peter Pan syndrome never wanting to grow up? Could we truly be the forgotten generation? Or is something else, is something bigger a factor? I like to be positive, it’s a big part of who I am and I believe it’s not simply who we are. I believe it can all be changed, and that it’s never too late.

Let’s take a look at the reality of the situation. Just the facts, no opinions, no outlook just as things are right now. Most Millennials still live with their parents, though their own parents had a whole family at this point in life. The ones who have moved out for whatever reason, have mediocre jobs. Many have finished university and either are unemployed as they are still trying to find a job in their field, or are working in the local Deli hoping to get the call.

Another problem is we are getting older, for those who weren’t “lucky enough” to get on a career path are very close to being “overqualified”. What that means is you are too old to be taught anything new and the company doesn’t need you.

Starting your own company has its own set of new challenges. Unless you are super intelligent, super lucky or a very good salesman, you are competing with a lot of already established companies. It used to be a few cafes, bars pubs located in one area, now they are everywhere. A few shops and supermarkets, now you have huge corporations with low prices and you cannot compete. Any business, any idea, it’s already been done, already established and probably owned by an X-Gen and we know they are ready to kick their dead grandma’s ass let alone yours.

To make things worse, our parents are the X Generation. They had plenty of challenges we will never face. The cold war, the Berlin wall (they brought it down), high unemployment, their own set of very active, home bread, terrorists and more. When they were little, people didn’t lose their heads over a parent physically disciplining their kids even if it went too far. It’s safe to say, they did not have it easy. We don’t even get to complain. So what’s left, we’ve given up hope.

I believe that last sentence and only that sentence is the reason why we are stuck on our computers, watching funny animal videos and living an imaginary life online. We are not lazy, we are out of hope. Hope, the main reason why men fought wars they couldn’t possibly win, why woman went on the streets to fight for their right to vote, why people ever tried to change the world. Hope the maker of men and women and more than that. Hope the maker of children and families. Without hope, you can never truly believe it’ll get better. Most Millennials will never admit it, but however unique we are, we all feel this deep down inside. This is it. It will never be better than now.

Give it time and don’t give up. You don’t need to be amazing right now. It’ll come. You don’t need a ton of fans or friends to make it. It’ll come. You don’t need to be cool or unique or weird or lucky. You need to be ready, to remain hopeful, to keep working IT WILL COME.